Do you feel like you are just going through the motions? Like you are meant to have a life that is more than what you have but you don't know how to get it? I have the answer for you today! Join me as I talk about the way to get the life that you want and HOW to create it. It's not a secret. It just takes a little focus and some intentionality. It's totally doable.
Read MoreConnecting with your spouse when he's addicted to pornography and you wish he weren't isn't easy. And learning how to communicate in that framework isn't easy. That is why I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Sam Tielemans! Sam is a licensed marriage and family therapist and works specifically with couples who are working to conquer pornography addiction. Ladies, if you are struggling knowing how to connect with your husband and talk to him about his addiction, this is for you! Be sure to leave a rating and review to let Sam know what you think!
Read MoreWe tend to not deal with our emotions. But the problem with this is that then we store them. And we compartmentalize them, thinking that if they look neat and tidy, then we will deal with them later (Or maybe we won't have to). But, eventually, if you don't deal with your emotions, you run out of storage. Just like your email account, you have a certain capacity for storage that, once you hit, you cannot take any more. And that's when we break down. Today I'm going to talk about why this happens and how to prevent it from happening again.
Read MoreWant to know the secret to actually accomplishing all of your resolutions for 2022? Here it is: you've been doing it all backwards so far. Today I am going to explain a concept to you called Be Do Have. And it is going to completely change how you think about the way you approach your life and your goals. We usually approach life with the attitude of Have Do Be. Once I HAVE the body/money/marriage/kids I want, then I will DO the things I want to do and then I will BE the person I want to be. It's opposite, my friends. Join me today and I'll show you.
Read MoreWhere does God fit in to all of this? To me, it's like asking where Jesus fits into Christmas. The answer is the same: He is the reason for all of it. Join me today as I discuss how God fits in and how the miracles we want may not be the miracles we are getting...and expecting certain miracles might make us miss the ones we have.
Merry Christmas, ya'll! I love you!
Read MoreLadies! I have a new offer! You can now join my program at ANY time AND get lifetime access to all content and coaching! Listen in as I talk about what the program looks like and why it's changing and why I am SO excited about it!! Come join me today by heading to my website!
Read MoreJust like an addict follows a physical addiction cycle, as the porn addict's wife, we often follow an emotional addiction cycle right along with it. If you feel like you are constantly "triggered" by his addiction and don't know how to get out of it, this is for you. In this episode I break down the cycle AND how to break it!
Read MoreI am so thrilled to bring you this interview I did with Brock Bevell! He is a retired police officer who struggled with an opioid addiction and a pornography addiction and he now helps other men conquer their own addictions! In this episode, he and I sit down and he gives an inside look at pornography addiction from the point of view of the addict and breaks down the addiction cycle. Go listen to the whole thing and follow him for more information on how your husband can work with him in his online program!
Read MoreI often hear, "I'm broken". And, once upon a time, I felt that way too. But it's not true. Today I am going to show you why it's so important to change that thought and offer you a new one-one that has been extremely powerful for me. This thought helped me open up the future so that I could see that there was possibility and hope even during my husband's pornography addiction. Join me today and I'll show you!
Read MoreWant to know the key to actually creating the life you want instead of reacting to it? Step 1: Create Space. Today I am going to tell you exactly what this means, why it's so important, the beliefs you need to adopt to make it happen AND how to actually create those needed beliefs! This is not life coaching 101. This is the next level. This is taking everything you have learned on the podcast so far and taking it deeper. And this is just the beginning. If you want to be more than the porn addict's wife, this is where you start!
Read MoreDo you ever find yourself overreacting? Exploding about something you aren't even that upset about, it's just the last thing to set you off? We all do it. This is what happens when you suppress your emotions-they often transfer to something else. In this episode I'm going to explain what this is, why it happens, and how to stop doing it. If you want to learn how to stop exploding, this is the one for you!
Read MoreNot only is it important to become aware of our feelings, its important to become aware of the thoughts we have ABOUT our feelings. The way you approach your emotions can radically alter the way you experience them. On the podcast today I am going to go over some very common thoughts that my clients have about emotions and offer you some alternatives that will hopefully help you approach your emotions in a much better way!
Read MoreLet's say you want to trust your husband again-how do you do it? Today I'm going to offer a new concept to you: conscious trust. We often think that trust is something that is earned, and that is felt based on the actions of others. But I want to counter that today with another option-one that doesn't leave you at the mercy of someone else's decisions. Trust is something you can feel anytime you want. Toward anyone. Even yourself. Join me on this episode and I'll tell you how.
Read MoreBuffering is anything that we do to distract ourselves from how we are feeling. It is the buffer we place between ourselves and our emotions. In many cases, these buffers look like scrolling Instagram, or texting, or playing video games. Other times, these buffers are concentrated, false pleasures that mimic natural pleasures, like pornography and concentrated sugar. Today I'm going to teach you what a buffer is, and how it applies to your husband's pornography addiction.
Read MoreMy daughter broke her arm and had to have surgery this weekend: unexpected. And as I was spending countless hours in various hospitals, I began to look at the way our brain responds to unexpected circumstances (for example, a husband's pornography addiction). In this episode, I break down a few of the ways our brain responds and how to combat it when it isn't the most helpful thing. I hope ya'll enjoy this today and share it with someone else who is going through something unexpected!
Read MoreOvercoming beliefs is a simple, 5 step process. Not easy. But simple. And when you learn how to apply it to any belief (including the one we all have of "I am not enough", it is life changing. In this episode I am breaking down that 5 step process that I teach in my coaching program and illustrating how it works with the example of this belief. I am also showing you how your brain is strengthening that belief all the time and how to stop it!
Read MoreAs a follow up to the most recent episode, here is a conversation I had with my husband about the relationship between pornography addiction and sex. He breaks down his side of how they are not the same, how he experienced them during his addiction, and how he came to understand the difference between the two. We talk about how it affected us sexually and emotionally and how that has evolved during our relationship. If you like what you hear, please go leave a rating and review to help others find the podcast!
Read MoreBuckle up, ladies, this is a good one. It's very common for you to think that your husband's pornography addiction is about you. But today I'm going to tell you WHY you think that and WHY it's not true. Take some notes and be sure to subscribe to the podcast because there will be a follow up bonus episode with my husband about this very topic that will be releasing this week!
Read MoreOver the years I have found that there are 3 main keys that, if developed, will help you move forward from your husband's porn addiction faster than anything else. The best news is that each of these are internal characteristics that YOU can develop and they are completely free! So join me today as I discuss what they are and why they are so crucial to getting unstuck and moving forward.
Read MoreI am SO excited to bring you a conversation I had with my client Monica! She was gracious and honest and open and is sharing what her experience was like finding out about her husband's pornography addiction, how she and I came to work together, her journey with therapy, and the biggest hurdles she struggled to overcome regarding her husband's addiction. I hope y'all can find some hope and wisdom from her story and know that you are not alone. And if she can find the healing she so desperately yearned for, so can you!
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